Let’s Reframe Reflux

When Emma posted about Jude’s reflux I was, in typical mama pride way, just soldiering on, ‘making-do’ with him in pain. Neither of us expected the huge response to our reflux plea and I am happy to say that so much of your advice has helped made Jude more comfortable. So firstly, a humongous thank you to everyone who spent the time to give Jude incredible reflux advice. 

The flood of support and suggestions has also set me on a journey of reflux discovery; why do so many babies get reflux nowadays? And what can we do to help the babies (and ourselves!) with all the wonderful quirks that come with reflux babies.  I decided to throw myself into understanding reflux so I could help other parents. Here are a few things I have learnt, including stellar advice from you all. 

So why is reflux on the rise? I asked reflux expert and author of the Sensational Baby Sleep Plan Alison Scott-Wright. 

‘Reflux has been around for over 50 years (I know as I was a reflux baby!) but it is only now that people are starting to recognise it as a condition. However, it is definitely on the rise and heading towards epidemic proportions. I believe that some of the contributing factors to this are the negative compromise of gut health due to the overuse of antibiotics, GM foods, sugar, vaccinations, pollution, stress and the current generic and vague guidelines on how to sleep and feed your baby. Many people still don’t see reflux as a serious condition, nor do they know how to diagnose it as there are so many potential signals (my book has over 3 pages of symptoms!). Reflux babies respond to their pain in different ways – some cluster feed for comfort while others reject feeds completely. If your baby is clearly in pain, struggling to sleep or showing any signs of discomfort you should seek medical advice.’

So knowing that, here are the main things that have helped me and will hopefully help you.   

1. Reflux is a real thing – make sure you push for media assistance if you need it. Sounds obvious but a lot of doctors will just call it colic and send you home, especially when your cheeky baby decides to become dream child in the GP surgery. Record your baby when they are crying/ in pain/ throwing up to prove the symptoms exist!

2. Don’t blame yourself for reflux. I was the healthiest I have ever been during pregnancy. I meditated every day, yoga-ed and walked frequently, and yet reflux reared its ugly head. The fact is that there are so many factors that could contribute it is impossible to pinpoint it. Jude could have inherited it from my dad’s side (all my nieces and nephews on that side had it); my dairy intolerance could have been passed down; and what about all those antibiotics Jude was given in his first 72 hours after a complicated birth process. Don’t spend precious time worrying or blaming yourself. However, if you are worried you can do some/ all of the following:

    1. An alkaline diet during pregnancy can apparently reduce the risk of reflux
    1. Cut out all soft drinks during pregnancy and when breastfeeding
  1. An elimination diet when breastfeeding can also reduce the symptoms of reflux (more on that later)

3. Guidelines are created for the average baby; your baby is better than that. As a new mum I poured over guidelines and found myself saying ‘they say…’ a lot when talking about baby advice. For example, ‘they say’ a baby should sleep on its back. I am no sleep expert but it is proven that lying on your back will exacerbate reflux, which is the reason why many reflux babies struggle with naps, prams, moses baskets or lying down after a feed. Jude now sleeps on his front and sleeps through the night as well as regular 2 hour naps in his cot. Now, I am not pushing anyone to do the same as I understand the dangers of tummy sleeping (we purchased a breathing mattress monitor for our own peace of mind). But it is safe to say that Jude is more comfortable and able to self soothe without us rocking him to sleep, which is lucky given we had visions of rocking Jude to sleep for years! ’They’ also suggest to pat your baby on the back when burping them. For reflux babies this actually causes more pain as you are bringing acid back up the throat with each pat. Just gently hold your baby upright and the burp will come. Finally, when Jude was in pain in the night I would chuck any rule book out of the window; he slept on me, next to me, across me, anything to make him comfortable. ‘They’ will tell you a lot of things, just do what is best for your baby. 

4. Breast is only best because it rhymes. I loved (and really miss!) breastfeeding but it also came with its challenges. Jude would start the feed loving every second but after the first boob would start to get uncomfortable. He would then need the boob for comfort, which would cause his more pain. Breast milk is thin so can more easily journey back up the throat whereas formula is thicker so it more likely to remain where it should. If you do want to continue breastfeeding then dairy, wheat, soy and egg exclusion diets for breastfeeding mamas do help. I did try this for a while but ended up starving most the time and questioning whether my breastmilk had the nutrients Jude needed. If you are more organised than me you can probably find amazing food that works but I couldn’t do it for long so after 10 weeks of breastfeeding I am now on formula. On a more positive note, a gastric pediatrician reassured me that most food is fine to consume (coffee, chilli etc) as you would realistically have to eat a mountain of each thing for it to take effect. So if you do decide to do the wheat, dairy, egg, soy diet at least you can drink coffee!

5. Your washing machine will become your NBF. You will wash clothes, muslins, sheets a lot. We have found humour in it by creating a sweepstake on how many outfit changes Jude will have each day. We also make up his cot with a mattress protector, cot sheet, towel, another cot sheet and then a muslin so if he is sick in the night we just remove the top few layers without much fuss. And I have found real happiness in wearing simple clothes, rarely washing my hair, even rarer still putting make up on. So embrace the washing; it won’t last long and life becomes infinitely more simple when you know you don’t really have much choice on what you will wear!

6. There are products that are branded as good for reflux/ colic etc, but through experience the smaller unknown brands seem to work better. Here is a list of what works and what doesn’t (I am looking at you, Dr Brown)

    1. The ergo baby with the infant insert is a life saver, or baby hypnotiser as my other mama friend likes to call it. When Jude could not sleep I would strap him into the ergo and go on long gorgeous walks where he would sleep for 2 hours easily. I discovered the joys of Peckham Rye park and Jude got the sleep he needed. 
    1. Probiotics help any baby who has had all the good gut bacteria stripped from antibiotics. Use BioGaia or Optibac – the latter is diary free, gluten free, and vegan.
    1. I am with Mamalina on the anti-artifical drugs battle. However for reflux, omeprazole is a winner. You should always push for omeprazole as doctors will always prescribe ranitidine first (it is cheaper). 
    1. Mam bottles are by far the best bottles for reflux babies and yet relatively unknown. The teat doesn’t cause choking and allows an easy flow of milk with minimal gulping and air inhalation. 
    1. Other products/ things that worked for Jude include: baby beanbag (from Amazon) so he can chill in the kitchen upright, Moby Wrap sling, towels underneath the top of the changing mat to create a little incline.
  1. Products that don’t work for Jude include: Dr Brown bottles (he chokes on the teat and coming from a mum who likes the easy life, those bottles have two too many bits to sterilise), Close Caboo sling, car seat newborn insert (it squashes his abdomen so allows acid back up his throat), Bugaboo basanet (too flat and when jolted around on London pavements it causes him to vomit)

Finally, and most importantly, we decided a few weeks ago to change the narrative of reflux. Instead of feeling jealous that other babies can be put down straight after feeds, I love that I can cuddle Jude for longer to keep him upright – vomit and all. Changing the narrative has helped us find the humour in the situation. 

Are you a mum of a reflux baby? What tips have you found to be helpful?

Thanks Meg!

P.S How to Turn a Breech Baby Naturally and 3 Ingredient Creamy Oat Milk


Megan Murray Jones is a qualified reflexologist specialising in the effects of stress, fertility and pregnancy. Follow here @reflexologyhouse


  1. Natalie
    August 10, 2018 / 6:32 am

    Hi, this is my third baby with severe silent reflux. Your post has made me smile and also reminded me that I’m not alone and my feelings are not unreasonable. I have every gadget known to man to allow me to have free hands but the beanbag is a new one to me! There are lots of beanbags on AMAZON for babies and they all look v chilled laying down- won’t happen here! Is there any chance you could be a lifesaver and let me know which one you went for.
    Thanks again x

    • Emma Ross
      August 20, 2018 / 12:57 pm

      let me check with my friend and get back to you!

  2. Nicole
    May 24, 2017 / 12:34 pm

    Thank you for this post. It gave me the impetus to get my baby treated at a few weeks old, enabling us to head off the worst of the pain early and, now at 7 weeks, she’s starting to be much more settled, which is such a relief.

    • emmaross
      May 24, 2017 / 10:23 pm

      hey nicole – ah im so so pleased for you (and for your little one) sounds like you have it under control which is so important. sending you and your tribe love x

  3. November 21, 2016 / 4:56 pm

    Hey Megan, I work with Alison ( she is my sister as well, and an amazing one at that!), and I just wanted to say a massive thank you to you for your honesty, your gentle, humble and unbiased approach to telling your story about your experience with reflux. And how it has prompted you to want to empower and inform other parents that may be experiencing a similar worrying and stressful journey. Working with Alison has been an incredible journey for me. watching and feeling the way that she cares about babies with reflux, and the effect that this can have on not just baby, but the whole Family, is very humbling. I see and hear the pain that she feels when she holds a four week old baby as she did at the Essex baby show yesterday and immediately, intuitively knows that they have reflux. It is so distressing – and sadly so unnecessary. if only there were more acknowledgement and understanding about this horrible condition, so much pain, sleep deprivation and stress would be avoided. Thankfully, we are now in a position to be creating a fantastic, informative, supportive website that we hope will become a community hub for families experiencing these difficulties. So I just wanted to reach out and say to you again, thank you for taking the time to write your story to share with others. Little jude has a courageous, Amazon woman for a mamma – I salute you and send you love and sunshine and blessings. Marion Ingerson -heartxxx

    • Meg
      November 23, 2016 / 8:29 am

      So lovely to hear from you Marion and thank you for your amazing words – mothers are all Amazonian right?!
      Let’s hope that more people speak out about reflux and can learn to diagnose it so action can be taken sooner.
      You and Alison are doing amazing things supporting all these families and their babies – thank you!
      Meg xx

  4. Donna
    November 16, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Hi there great post! Reflux is an awful awful thing – my second reflux, cows milk allergy baby is 4 months! It’s funny how they are all different my first baby could only tolerate tommee tippee bottles, this one dr browns and we love the caboo close! Totally agree about the mindset of being jealous of other babies and mummy’s who were lovely and settled. I cried so much when my second started to show the signs of reflux – I just really wanted to experience the amazing newborn days but it wasn’t to be. I’m afraid that is the bad news though I’ve been told by numerous people that if you have one reflux baby you’ll more than likely have another. So I’m done with babies 😉

    • emmaross
      November 19, 2016 / 8:36 pm

      ah thanks for reading Donna and im sorry you went through this (twice). hoping your littlest has come through it now though x

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